Happy Thanksgiving… Everyday is a gift to be thankful for


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Every day is a gift I choose to be Grateful for
Thanksgiving Day is special that is for sure
Where we give thanks even more
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Today is a day of love and grace
No matter your religion, creed or race
As we sit down to our meals all over the place
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Some say prayers before they eat
Their wonderful meals and their tasty treats
Some choose tofu for their Thanksgiving feasts
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Whatever it is that you do this day
I hope that you do it in a loving way
I wish you and yours a day filled with love and joy
On this very special day
Happy Thanksgiving!

I wish you the best where ever you are if you are in a place where it isn’t a holiday or you don’t celebrate Thanksgiving I wish you a day filled with love and grace, in my heart you are with me at my table sharing a meal and some smiles as we express our gratitude and thanks for the gift of life and the love we have in our lives.
Thank you all for being You, and doing all the beautiful things you do! You are awesome and I am quite blessed to be given the opportunity to share this time and space with you. Thank you!

Namaste :)

Are we creating a Utopia or a Nightmare? Do the ploice have too much power?


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I have decided to take a few minute break from my novel writing project. I am in the home stretch with over 53,000 words on virtual paper. There are still probably another 10,000 to 15,000 words to go yet I am feeling quite good about my progress. Like running a cross country race when I was in High School I am catching my second wind.
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It is funny that my mom, the local newspaper, and another tragic shooting of a child inspired me to write a blog post. Writing a blog post is a break?
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I was chatting with my mom about an article in the local paper “The Salt Lake Tribune” the article and headline titled “Are 45 deaths at the hands of police a cause for alarm?” was about the number of citizens killed by police in the last five years 45 of them “Ranked second only to homicide of intimate partners” (quote taken from sub headline) local law enforcement watchdogs (who they are is a mystery to me) say it is time to treat deadly force as a “Potentially Serious Public Safety Problem.”
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The article goes on to say “The numbers reflect that there could be an issue and it is going to take a deeper understanding of these shootings” and “It definitely can’t be written off as citizens groups being upset with law enforcement” quotes shared in the tribune by a former police lieutenant that served in Washington D.C. and Utah six years of his law enforcement carrier were on SWAT teams.
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As I was reading the article I mentioned the shooting today of a child in Cleveland Ohio, to my mom asking her if she had heard about it. It appears, police had received a call about someone waving a “probably fake gun” the young man was 12 years old.
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My mom said the most shocking thing I have ever heard her say and it broke my heart as well as opened my eyes as to part of the problem with our Utopian police run society. “He wanted to get killed, waving a gun in a police officer’s face” WHAT? “I am the Law”?


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I looked at her and reminded her that when I was a kid I used to wear a cap gun and play cowboys and Indians with my friends all the time, if it wasn’t cowboys and Indians it was war the Americans against the Germans or the Japanese. We didn’t even think about being shot by the police. She said”Times have changed “in a very nasty tone. I replied in my most loving reverent voice “Yes they have we have made it against the law to be a kid.”
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I am not a fan of guns and certainly not a fan of violence, I do think that kids should be able to play and have fun even if it is acting like a soldier, a cowboy, an Indian, a pirate, or even a Knight of the round Table. Without the fear of being shot by the police, or a neighborhood watch group.
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Do you remember the old western movies where the Sheriff shot the gun out of the bad guy’s hand?
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Why are the police choosing to “Shoot to kill” rather than using an alternate shot? Most of the victims of police killings are un armed and those that are armed are usually carrying a pocket knife or wielding a dull sword, some even armed with a toy gun, they pose no real harm to anyone other than themselves. It seems to me if the officers are required to pass a shooting test and can hit the kill zone ten out of ten times they should be just as able to hit a leg or arm ten out of ten times and to be honest even a gun from a person’s hand more often than not.
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I am a veteran and actually have medals from shooting competitions, I do understand gun control, I also understand that the police are under a lot of stress. I just hope that they know our streets are not the battlefield and our children are not the enemy.
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Is there a real cause for alarm?
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Is there a legitimate reason to be concerned that our police are killing so many of our citizens?
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Are the police and their methods a “Serious Public Safety Problem”?
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It seems that of the many cases I have seen over the last twenty years including one of a young man shot 40 + times by multiple officers who was un armed on his porch in Brooklyn NY while reaching for his wallet have been clearly a case of manslaughter at minimum, murder for many of them. Yet the courts and the officials of our towns and choose not to prosecute those officers, stating they were within the limits of the law and protected by the badge they wear.
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Are the Police above the law? It would seem that our police have 00 status and the license to shoot to kill!
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We need police, I am grateful for the most part we have them, the majority are truly looking out for our communities and well being. I would ask them to perhaps remember that this is not a war zone, even the criminals are not the enemy, and shoot to kill should be the last choice not the first!
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Thank you for being you and thank you for visiting my page… I will be back with my normally scheduled inspirational posts in the next couple of days! I do have a special post for the Thanksgiving Holiday we -are about to celebrate here in the U.S.
Namaste

The Elephant… Don’t you see it?


The Elephant in the room….
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Why is it that many of us human beings don’t acknowledge the obvious? We can look at the Elephant in the room and act like we don’t see it.
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There are many issues in our personal lives and in our communities, cities, states, nations, and our world that the old saying applies to. (war, homelessness, racism, hunger, poverty, to name a few)
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Do we just choose not to see it? Is it fear that stops us?
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I had several conversations with friends about the issues they were experiencing in their lives that reminded me of the old saying “The Elephant in the room” first it would be helpful to define the saying for those who may not have heard it or those that really have taken no time to understand what it means.
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Wikipedia says: “Elephant in the room” or “Elephant in the living room” is an English metaphorical idiom for an obvious truth that is either being ignored or going unaddressed. The idiomatic expression also applies to an obvious problem or risk no one wants to discuss.
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The Oxford English Dictionary gives the first recorded use of the phrase, as a simile, as The New York Times on June 20, 1959: “Financing schools has become a problem about equal to having an elephant in the living room. It’s so big you just can’t ignore it.”[3]
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The conversations were for the most part about the issues that they were dealing with; the largest cause of those issues was their own negative attitudes and perspectives. Most of them were running from the issue rather than going within and changing their perspectives. I was guilty recently of trying to shut out the rest of the world and focus… Not how it works!
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Much like what was happening with my friends and family I was ignoring the “Elephant in the room.” Life doesn’t work that way nor can I just be a master of my mind and heart in solitude. I did need to take some time and get focused, mastery would be something that I have to do in my everyday life, in my encounters with the energy and attitudes that others.
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The only one that can make things change in your life is you, what is your relationship with the Elephant in the room? Are you ignoring your pains and your negative attitude or those of your friends and loved ones pretending that they are not the problem?
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We owe it to ourselves, our friends, our families to deal with the elephant! Go deep, confront then release your fears and negativity, and let those feelings go free. They like the elephant they do better out in the open than caged up in the room!
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Thank you for being you, you are beautiful and quite awesome, I appreciate your taking the time to stop by and read my posts. It brings a great smile, speaking of which… Your smiles and the love you share are making our world a better place for all we share it with! Thank you for being the positive change our world so needs!

Namaste 

Sunday morning post “Coaches’ having Coffee.” A guest blog


We all have different perspectives and thoughts, so I asked my friend Appio to sit and have a cup of coffee with me .Before we met; we had been discussing the fact that not all coaches are the same. Not all styles of coaching will resonate with everyone. I am a laid back down to earth kind of person that doesn’t like to get all fired up and “gungho” like many of the coaches and trainers you might find in a gym for example.
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My friend Appio is more of a busy action happy kind of coach that is for the most part like the trainer at the gym. I found that as we all have our own learning styles and we all have different ways that we are motivated it would be nice to share another perspective with those who read my posts. It is my intent to inspire, incite and evoke positive change from within so that we may all achieve a state or at least the desire to achieve a state of human excellence in our world.

Good Morning, I would like to introduce you to a great friend, his name is Appio Hunter.

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Appio is a “Happiness Coach” & Certified “Infinite Possibilities Trainer” the first thing that came to my mind when Appio handed me his card was ”What is a Happiness Coach” So to start the interview that was my first Question…
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Joe: “Appio just out of curiosity what is a happiness coach and why did you choose that title?”
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Appio:” I have felt since I was about 5 years old that my life’s purpose was to help people be happy. There is an epidemic of sadness and depression in our society, I have found and it is known that just hearing the word “Happy” brings about a state of happiness.”
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Joe: “Awesome, I am curious, why did you mention sadness and depression? It seems unusual that as a happiness coach you would mention their opposites.”
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Appio:” I have had a life long battle with depression and the thought process. For me it is a medical condition, I have a chemical imbalance that causes me to feel sad and depressed. I was prescribed drugs in my earlier years that would take bring relief from the depression yet they would also make me feel like a zombie of sorts. If that makes sense, I didn’t like the feeling the drugs produced anymore than I liked the effects of the depression I felt. I slowly weaned myself off of those drugs and have not taken them in many years. “
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Joe: “Interesting I have heard that from many people that have that same condition. I am curious as to what is your secret to overcoming or controlling your condition?”
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Appio: The life changer for me, my secret was discovering the works of “Mike Dooley” his books and quotes. I started getting his e mails “Notes from the Universe” they were quite inspirational. One day at the bottom of one of those notes was a note… It basically said become an Infinite Possibilities Trainer” I took the course and was so inspired I took it to the next level. I am a member of the LGTB Community and a member of the Gay writes writing group. There is a need for positive inspiration, some of the members of the writing group were in their own battles of depression. The next level of becoming a “Trailblazer” required becoming a teacher of the skills learned as a trainer by giving back, providing a service to the community. Within one month of finishing the course I had met the requirements to become a “Trailblazer.” I had taught and coached over six members of the community the skills and shared the tools of how to recognize and change their thought patterns.”
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Joe:” If you could what would be the most important things you would share with me and the readers of my blog?”
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Appio:” Happiness surrounds us, and it is always there for us to reach out and claim for our own. If we’re feeling sad, miserable, or depressed, it’s okay. Those feelings will pass as long as we acknowledge them and let them flow. We’re not here to be tried, sentenced, judged, and punished. We’re here to laugh, love, thrive, be happy, and have fun.”
Don’t ignore or try to suppress your feelings. You only feel worse if you do. Instead, acknowledge how you feel and then let yourself feel whatever it is you want to feel. Emotions are supposed to flow, so let them flow.
Your best friend when feeling sad or depressed is distraction. When you can’t seem to get rid of negative thoughts, distract yourself by flipping the thought around to its exact opposite. You can also make a gratitude list, and then supercharge your gratitude by celebrating everything on that list.
When nothing else works, just move into gratitude.
If you can learn to be grateful for the “bad” things that happen, you’ll discover that even the bad things can be something good.”
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Joe: “Thank you Appio, that is some pretty awesome advice and wisdom you chose to share. How much do I owe you? Lol, lets get a refill and have some cake!
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Look for Appio’s new book to be released in late November The Power of G: Unforgettable Lessons on How Gratitude Can Transform Your Life! By Appio Hunter
You can also find out more about him or his services here on his websites and I hope you will…
http://www.AppioHunter.com
http://www.ReflectionsOnReality.com

Thank you all for being you, you are all amazing and awesome human beings. I am quite honored to share time and space with you all, together we are changing our world in a positive way as we share our love and our smiles, we are making it a better place for all we share it with! :)
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Namaste

What do you want to do… Change the world?


Identity, Direction, Purpose…. These three powerful words, have found a new meaning for me in my life. In all honesty it seems that I have spent the last eight years in a state of self discovery. It takes a great deal of effort to know who you really are. Sifting through the layers of labels and expectations placed upon me in my lifetime was an enormous task.
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Writing is tool that helps us in many ways on our journey it is one of many action steps we can take. It is used for empowerment and letting go and has a great effect on our personal well being and confidence. One of the most helpful empowerment tools I wish I had learned about earlier in my life actually helps with all three of these aspects empowering us providing a great base to work from.
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The tool is a Personal Statement! I consider it a painting of sorts and add to mine regularly. The benefits of writing one are many as it covers all three of the bases. Identity, direction and purpose, as you write yours go deep and visualize big!

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Have you ever written down your vision?
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Have you ever sat down and thought about what you would like to contribute to the world?
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I had the gift of observing the power of what a written Personal Statement can do for a person. I was in a class and one of the students was asked about his life and what his vision was. He was also asked what the contribution of his vision would contribute to the world. He smiled and looked bewildered as he said he had no clue what his vision was nor did he ever give any thought as to what his contribution would be to the world. “I am just a common guy and have no dream or desire to change the world. I work in an IT department and my wife made me take this class” was his response. We all laughed as his wife jabbed him in the ribs. The instructor then asked him if he was up for a challenge that would change his life in a very positive way. He said he was and then the true transformation began.

The instructor gave him a “Home work assignment” he was to come in the next day with a two page typed in an Arial font size 12 double spaced Personal Statement. The statement was to be a written essay of what he truly aspired to do for the rest of his life and what he would be contributing to the rest of the world.” Even if he was a dishwasher for a dream job he would be helping clean up the planet and providing clean sanitary dishes for the people that ate in the restaurant where he worked. His dishwashing skills and services would be a benefit to the community as he would do so in a way that conserved water while using natural bio degradable soap he would be contributing to the community he lived in and the world.” Was the example the instructor put out there for the student. He smiled and laughed at the example and said he “Got it”.

The next day it was amazing to see the student stand up as he was asked if he had done his homework. He responded “Yes I did my homework I stayed up until 3 am working on it I was surprised at how many times I changed my mind and re wrote it. I finally decided what to write when I knew I was running out of time” he said as he held up the two pages.

The Student was asked to come up to the stage and read his essay to the group, he knew he was going to be asked and he was ready. He had dressed in a nice suit and wore a tie that matched his eyes. He began by telling us all he only wore a suit to church on Sundays and rarely wore a tie. He said he was inspired by the essay he had written and felt so alive, “I have never felt as alive as I feel today” were the first words he spoke as he walked onto the stage.

He began to read his piece when the instructor stopped him and urged him to read it with the passion it deserved and the passion he was showing in his dress and with his smile. He read the statement with such conviction and it was amazing to see him and the energy he shared as he went through the speech. It was like watching an inaugural speech by a famous president. He was so inspired and proud of what he had written and discovered as he searched within his being for his identity and the direction he wanted to go as he fulfilled his purpose. The group stood up and gave him a standing ovation as he shouted his last words “I am awesome, I am inspiring, and I am making our world a more loving and beautiful place.”

I have found a new respect for the Personal Statement and as I re write mine I thought I would share the story with you all and ask if you have written a Personal Statement. I hope you might find the time to do so and take the time to really discover what it is you want to do with your life that changes our world in a positive way even if it is doing dishes or being a garbage man you contribute to the world in many ways. I hope that you go deep and discover your passion and what you truly desire to be and do with your life as you paint the picture of who you are and want to be. If you are a dishwasher now and you aspire to inspire perhaps you will choose to become a writer in your vision and inspire change through peace or a greener planet through natural detergents and conserving water. Write your new story with passion from the depths of who you are and what you want to do knowing whatever it is you choose you will contribute to our world many great things! What is your dream… ?

Thank you all for being you and for taking the time to read this post. I hope you are inspired to write your Personal Statement and know who you are, where you want to go, and the reason you want to get there…” Identity, Direction, Purpose…” To inspire us all and change our world in a positive way as you set the example from within and change from within you will change the world around you!

Namaste 