A Desperate World


Joe Bradshaw:

A beautiful post and sentiment shared by a beautiful human being! I hope you enjoy the post. I did it is awesome how many people are speaking their minds and hearts in our world.

Originally posted on idealisticrebel:

No matter where you live on our planet, the countries are filled with hatred, selfishness, a lack of compassion and empathy. People who are marginalized in their countries are angry and want change. They lack the education or the will to use positive tools to bring justice and peace to the world. Guns, hatred, meanness, rifles, bombs, and attacking perfect strangers will not make your life better or happier.

Every person wants to make their life better.  You need to do this. You can do this. You don’t need to cause pain and suffering if that is what is in your life. Your life can be improved. Many people have done just that.

The desperate  state of the world calls us to action. Each of us has a responsibility to try to help at the deeper level of our common humanity. Unfortunately, humanity is too often sacrificed in defense of…

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You are My Inspiration!!!!! And I love you all!


Last night as I spoke at a fall reading for an upcoming Anthology I looked at the crowd and shared with them the thoughts that were in my mind as I wrote the piece I shared with them. It was one I shared here as well although it was somewhat changed as I have edited it for the publication and the reading. As I took the stage and adjusted the microphone I looked into the crowd of about a hundred people and the diversity of the group made me smile . I was happy to see a homeless man in standing just outside the door and wished he would come in. His smile said he was happy where he was as he listened to the speakers sharing a wide variety of stories.

I began my speech as I looked at the crowd with ” I want you all to know that you are my inspiration! As I thought about how I was going to express my thoughts on self expression I thought about all the amazing people that I have had the gift of interacting with on my journey. You are all awesome and you are all in my eyes a Masterpiece.” I looked at the homeless guy and nodded my head as I said “yes You” then I shared my piece and my poem.

I love all of my fellow human beings and interact with so many in so many ways and from all walks of life. I wanted to share some of the things and people that inspire me and those people that create beautiful things with such heart even when they have dirt being kicked in their faces. The love and the heart is so inspirational to me I wonder why so many never open their eyes and see….

Just a few of the gifts that we miss as we look and judge, I will say that what we miss or what we judge still has a profound affect on who we become and what we contribute to our world. I am grateful for those beautiful people that took the time to share with us these few examples of what so many miss and the gifts they shared with us. They took the time to share a gift from some of those that are going through some hard times and our collective humanity by taking the time to share some love and show that they care!

I wanted to share these few thoughts as you start your weekend and I hope that you may take the time to enjoy the beautiful people around you as they share some of their beautiful gifts. Even a smile with a homeless person is a treasure for both of you a smile is an act of love from the heart of a Masterpiece!

Thank you all for being you the Masterpiece that you are for the inspiration you share with me as I learn and grow on my journey of knowing who I am and what that means.I am honored to be a human being sharing time and space with all of you beautiful human beings. Thank you for being awesome beautiful you! I am grateful that you share your smiles and your love making our world a better place for all we share it with.

Namaste! :)

Love letters as a tool for self love?


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The last few posts I have been sharing some tools that are designed for empowerment and creating a sense of self. The tool I want to share today is probably the tool that was most instrumental for me in regards to my personal transformation. The key to moving forward as you take a journey of self discovery is learning how to love yourself.
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For me the most difficult part of my personal journey in life and self discovery was learning to love myself. I was taught when I was young that loving yourself was a narcissist thing. It was a perspective reinforced by many contributing factors to the point that I felt unworthy of love. My own father left when I was seven and I still have yet to hear from him. My mother married a man several years later that was abusive sending me a message that I was useless and unworthy, un loveable. Reinforcing those beliefs was the religious upbringing that started me off as a sinner and unworthy of going home to meet my maker in heaven.
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That feeling of being un loveable especially by my own father, on earth and my father in heaven was one that had an effect on my life and my relationships. That effect was one of destruction even though I didn’t even realize it was the sword that sliced through every bond I made. Like Alexander the Great I could cut through the biggest strongest knot with that sword. It was the basis for my addictions and my “chip on the shoulder” as many would say over the years.
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I learned about this tool in a most unusual way actually I found it in several places almost simultaneously while dealing with multiple issues all of them pointing to the love I didn’t have yet so desired. My first introduction to” love letters” was in a book by Harville Hendrix titled “Giving the Love that Heals” I saw it on my at the time marriage counselors bookshelf so I went and bought it. The second place I found it was shared with me as I filled out a questionnaire on an online matchmaking site… The test results came back and I got an e mail telling me I knew nothing about women! I spoke to my coach at the time who recommended that I read “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” by John Gray PhD

The tool of Love Letter Therapy is for the most part a forgiveness tool and a letting go tool. I found however it served me well as an empowerment tool! I not only used the technique to help with my personal and business relationships I used it for my relationship with myself. The technique can be a great way to heal especially if you use it in a Quantum way to visit the past and the present with the intent of sharing the love expressed and found when you write such a love letter to yourself or anyone else you may need to express those sentiments to. By going Quantum and visualizing the sharing of the letter there is no need to fear rejection or being hurt. For the most part every letter I wrote was thrown away after I finished except the first one to my former wife which I sent and then got slammed and screamed at for sending…” Love? What do you know about love?” Ooops! Even Dr. Gray says… Throw them away!

Dr.Gray’s “love letter” technique has five stages:

1. Anger. After a sentence or two explaining the nature and intent of the letter, the writer communicates his or her feelings of anger, resentment, blame etc. at the other person. “I don’t like it when you…..”
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2. Hurt and Sadness. In the second section of the letter, the writer describes any feelings of sadness, hurt or disappointment that are present. “I get sad when you….”
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3. Fear. This next section lists fears and insecurities that the writer feels, as in “I get scared when you…..”
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4. Guilt and Remorse. In this section the writer shares any feelings of responsibility, regret and remorse that are present. “I’m sorry that I…..” or “I regret….”
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5. Love. The last section of the letter is the appropriate place for the writer to describe feelings of love, forgiveness and understanding. “I love and forgive you for…..”
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I used this technique to work through my issues of sin and unworthiness and learned to forgive myself as well as love myself even if the religious institution I grew up in thought I was unworthy. I also used it to help with my issues of abandonment and abuse amongst many other things I have used it for relationship wise with other people. I hope you may find it useful in your life and on your path of self discovery… Love yourself you are awesome and divine.
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Thank you for being you and sharing some of your time with me as you read this post. I would like to say I appreciate your presence and your smiles! Thank you for sharing your love and your smiles and making our world a better place for all we share it with. You are positive change in action and it is an honor to share with you this time and space!

Namaste 

What do you want to do… Change the world?


Identity, Direction, Purpose…. These three powerful words, have found a new meaning for me in my life. In all honesty it seems that I have spent the last eight years in a state of self discovery. It takes a great deal of effort to know who you really are. Sifting through the layers of labels and expectations placed upon me in my lifetime was an enormous task.
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Writing is tool that helps us in many ways on our journey it is one of many action steps we can take. It is used for empowerment and letting go and has a great effect on our personal well being and confidence. One of the most helpful empowerment tools I wish I had learned about earlier in my life actually helps with all three of these aspects empowering us providing a great base to work from.
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The tool is a Personal Statement! I consider it a painting of sorts and add to mine regularly. The benefits of writing one are many as it covers all three of the bases. Identity, direction and purpose, as you write yours go deep and visualize big!

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Have you ever written down your vision?
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Have you ever sat down and thought about what you would like to contribute to the world?
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I had the gift of observing the power of what a written Personal Statement can do for a person. I was in a class and one of the students was asked about his life and what his vision was. He was also asked what the contribution of his vision would contribute to the world. He smiled and looked bewildered as he said he had no clue what his vision was nor did he ever give any thought as to what his contribution would be to the world. “I am just a common guy and have no dream or desire to change the world. I work in an IT department and my wife made me take this class” was his response. We all laughed as his wife jabbed him in the ribs. The instructor then asked him if he was up for a challenge that would change his life in a very positive way. He said he was and then the true transformation began.

The instructor gave him a “Home work assignment” he was to come in the next day with a two page typed in an Arial font size 12 double spaced Personal Statement. The statement was to be a written essay of what he truly aspired to do for the rest of his life and what he would be contributing to the rest of the world.” Even if he was a dishwasher for a dream job he would be helping clean up the planet and providing clean sanitary dishes for the people that ate in the restaurant where he worked. His dishwashing skills and services would be a benefit to the community as he would do so in a way that conserved water while using natural bio degradable soap he would be contributing to the community he lived in and the world.” Was the example the instructor put out there for the student. He smiled and laughed at the example and said he “Got it”.

The next day it was amazing to see the student stand up as he was asked if he had done his homework. He responded “Yes I did my homework I stayed up until 3 am working on it I was surprised at how many times I changed my mind and re wrote it. I finally decided what to write when I knew I was running out of time” he said as he held up the two pages.

The Student was asked to come up to the stage and read his essay to the group, he knew he was going to be asked and he was ready. He had dressed in a nice suit and wore a tie that matched his eyes. He began by telling us all he only wore a suit to church on Sundays and rarely wore a tie. He said he was inspired by the essay he had written and felt so alive, “I have never felt as alive as I feel today” were the first words he spoke as he walked onto the stage.

He began to read his piece when the instructor stopped him and urged him to read it with the passion it deserved and the passion he was showing in his dress and with his smile. He read the statement with such conviction and it was amazing to see him and the energy he shared as he went through the speech. It was like watching an inaugural speech by a famous president. He was so inspired and proud of what he had written and discovered as he searched within his being for his identity and the direction he wanted to go as he fulfilled his purpose. The group stood up and gave him a standing ovation as he shouted his last words “I am awesome, I am inspiring, and I am making our world a more loving and beautiful place.”

I have found a new respect for the Personal Statement and as I re write mine I thought I would share the story with you all and ask if you have written a Personal Statement. I hope you might find the time to do so and take the time to really discover what it is you want to do with your life that changes our world in a positive way even if it is doing dishes or being a garbage man you contribute to the world in many ways. I hope that you go deep and discover your passion and what you truly desire to be and do with your life as you paint the picture of who you are and want to be. If you are a dishwasher now and you aspire to inspire perhaps you will choose to become a writer in your vision and inspire change through peace or a greener planet through natural detergents and conserving water. Write your new story with passion from the depths of who you are and what you want to do knowing whatever it is you choose you will contribute to our world many great things! What is your dream… ?

Thank you all for being you and for taking the time to read this post. I hope you are inspired to write your Personal Statement and know who you are, where you want to go, and the reason you want to get there…” Identity, Direction, Purpose…” To inspire us all and change our world in a positive way as you set the example from within and change from within you will change the world around you!

Namaste 

Websites.. 5 minutes really? Oh my lol


I wanted to share a couple of thoughts about website building and Platforms for website hosting. First they all have a gimmick it seems! Have you ever read those ads that say have a site up and running in five minutes? Well perhaps it is true yet you would have to be an amazing individual and have a lot of information ready to cut and paste.

I recently began doing some extensive research and investigating as to where to open one of my new websites for my Coaching Business after much searching I went with the Number one platform as listed on a reputable site. Well I do have to agree they did have my site up in five minutes… I was editing it for about two hours before I got a nice note telling me my site was live and online. They suggested nicely that I may want to take it offline and post an under construction sign? What? Why would they not have thought of that and had a ready to go online button like the other website hosting building platforms I have used? I do have to say however that I am impressed and quite proud to say I was indeed online with a working site in five minutes..  Lol three days and two weeks into it I have a site I am ready to do business on I think?

That said I would like to ask a favor of you.. My WordPress friends and family.
If you have the time and inclination to do so perhaps you may stop by my website and share a few thoughts or suggestions if you might as to if you like it and if you have any suggestions that may make it better. I am going to link my blog and several other blogs may be re blogged there from time to time yet the site is still in the development stage. I do however need to step into the picture I am painting as far as my life goes so I will be doing small adjustments as the days go by.

Here is the link; http://www.personal-renovations-and-transformation-systems.com/

Thank you for being you and visiting my pages as you share your smiles and love.. You are making our world a better place for all we share it with. You are also a treasure to me with the many ways you choose to share your smiles, love and support as you write your blogs and share your wisdom with us all. Please feel free to comment and let me know what you think about the website if you have time.

Namaste 

A tool from the “Old toolbox” Empowerment tools


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I thought I might share a tool from the old toolbox as it may help someone in a way that they need right now. The largest obstacle for most people I have been chatting with and my mentoring clients is one I also had issue with… Identity, “who am I” we at various points in time ask ourselves that question. The answer is not always what we want to hear. Why? Well we are conditioned and have built a definition based on that conditioning and how we are feeling about ourselves. In truth there are many factors that lead to our answers.
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I would like to share a tool that will help you as you search for the answer to that question. It is an empowerment tool that over many years has been used and developed to assist us in learning to claim our personal power and begin the process of learning who we are and build a new base to start from as we move forward in our personal journeys. I would say that it is one of the most effective beginner tools and is easy to use. Using it as I am suggesting twice a day for a month while adjusting it as necessary will change your life in a very positive way. It will also begin the reprogramming of your subconscious mind eliminating limiting beliefs and negative patterns of thinking about yourself to positive beliefs and patterns that empower you to move forward with confidence and self love.
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The tool is called “Declaration” and is a tool that you create and has two parts that you apply in a verbal and visual way that is so simple yet so powerful.

Part one
Step one; take a sheet of paper and fold it in half, on the right hand side at the top of the sheet write the word negative, on the left hand side write the word positive.
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Step two; on the right hand side of the page write down the first five negative things that people have said or that negative voice says about you in your head. Do not use I am statements remember this is the voice not your inner being, don’t accept the label!
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Step three; on the left hand side of the page write the five opposites to the negatives you wrote on the rights side of the page and with each opposite add a positive statement about your physical being. Use I am statements claim your power!
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EXAMPLE;
Positive …………………………………………….. Negative
I am Fearless and I have an awesome smile!……………………. You are too scared
I am Intelligent and I am healthy ………………………….. You are stupid
I am worthy and I am sexy …………………………….You don’t deserve that car
I am capable of doing anything I set my mind to………………You are not good enough
And I am strong
I am intuitive and a chunk of man candy ….you are a dreamer and make stuff up
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Part Two:
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Step one; tear the sheet in half set the negative side aside…
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Step two: Take the positive list and read it aloud three times, do this at least twice a day once in the morning and once in the evening. The more you read it the deeper and faster the process.
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The first time you read it read it in your normal voice out loud, then read it in a loud voice a “Galactic or Epic” voice raise your arms while you read it this way declare it to the Universe the third time your say it say it in a soft gentle and reverent voice. Remember it is important to read the list out loud at least three times in three different levels of voice.. Read it silently rather than Galactic if that makes you uncomfortable yet mouth the words. The Galactic is preferred for its movement of energy and the chemical reaction it produces in your body… Everything is energy and moving energy is momentum, the tool is a too, that establishes momentum and personal empowerment.
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Step three; take the negative side and… WAD IT UP AND STAMP ON IT, BURN IT, THROW IT AWAY, FLUSH IT, DOUBLE STAMP IT WITH BOTH FEET do whatever makes you happy as you let it be known that you are not that!
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I hope you may have found this post useful, perhaps you don’t need this kind of tool you may however know someone that is in a rough place with a loss of confidence feeling beat up and labeled. You can share a few minutes and help them create a Declaration tool that will help them empower themselves and begin changing their lives in a positive way!
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Thank you for sharing your time with me and taking the time to read this post. You are awesome and I am grateful for your presence. I woulds also like to say thank you for being the positive change our world so needs as you share your love and your smiles making our world a better place for all we share it with. 
Namaste!

The Art of Bieng You… You are a Masterpiece… A poem


… “The Art of Being You”
I appreciate the diverse ways that people express themselves with me every day
I truly appreciate the smiles they share and the words they say
Every frown and every tear is a gift as well
Colored with emotion in ways I see and hear
Like strokes of a brush on the canvas of my soul
Each one of them I cherish and hold dear
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We all express ourselves in all that we choose to say and do
Self expression is the art of being you
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As you choose your form of self expression
I hope that you choose to do so beautifully
As you share your masterpiece with me
As you create the master piece that is beautiful you!
Self-Expression is the Art of being you
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To me you are a Master, Creating a Masterpiece
Quite a beautiful masterpiece indeed
You are the Beautiful Masterpiece I see

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Thank you for being you and expressing yourself

I wanted to share this poem. I am using it as part of a reading for an upcoming Anthology pre reading. The essay and the poem will be in the Anthology when it is released this Spring. I will share them both later in the month via video after the reading :) Hope you all have an amazing day!

Thank you for being you and for being the positive change our world so needs as you share your love and your smiles making our world a better place for all we share it with!